Tuesday, 10 May 2011
TMI - 7 deadly sins, the opposing virtues
The 7 Contrary Virtues stand in direct opposition to one of the 7 deadly sins, which were addressed in last week’s TMI Tuesday.
Lust (excessive sexual appetites) Chastity (purity)
Gluttony (over-indulgence) Temperance (self-restraint)
Greed (avarice) Charity (generosity)
Sloth (laziness/idleness) Diligence (zeal/integrity/Labor)
Wrath (anger) Patience (composure)
Envy (jealousy) Kindness (admiration)
Pride (vanity) Humility (humbleness)
1. CHASTITY – Not just moral wholesomeness but treating sexuality with due reverence and respect.
It’s too late for you horny people to be virgins, and I know you can’t practice chastity. So…if you had to cut back on one sex act, for 90 days, what would that be? BTW…How old were you when you lost your virginity?
Damn! I hate this question!! If I had to give up something I will go with anal, not because it's not high on my favs list but because I think it would be great to be teased for the 90 days then experience the tightness and intensity that sustaining brings.
I was very young when I lost my virginity but I was 16 when I had my first proper experience of sex.
2. TEMPERANCE – Learn how to control sexual desires rather than fulfilling them.
I know many of you are wanking double time in honor of May Masturbation Month, what’s the longest you’ve gone without masturbating? Was it self-induced or did someone command you not to masturbate? Did you find it frustrating or liberating?
In the past 3 years since rediscovering myself sexually last may was the longest I've gone without climax. From the day I agreed to meet Dutch in Amsterdam until I arrived and we got into the hotel room! I even had a clock on my blog counting down the hours until I got hot to cum. I think it's was about 42 days altogether! And it was self imposed :)
3. CHARITY – A willingness to give, freely and without request for commendation.
Have you ever had sex relations with someone just because you felt badly to turn them down or you felt sorry for them?
Sort of... Long story but ... This guy I knew, as a friend, asked me put to lunch again, I said yes, he said where, I said surprise me....
Well he did that alright! He picked me up, took me to hotel to find he had booked a room and had sandwiches from the supermarket for lunch!! I went to the room trying to work out what I'd said to lead to this confusion, desperate not to hurt the guy and it was an expensive hotel. He stripped me and asked me to strip him, I started but felt so ill at the thought of sex with him I dressed and left in a hurry. Haven't spoken to him since.
4. DILIGENCE – A zealous attitude and careful nature toward living and sharing.
Are you a diligent lover? Do you offer more than 10 minutes in the missionary (i.e., lazy lover)? What do you do that makes you a diligent lover?
Do I need to answer this? We know I don't do quickies, last session was 18hrs none stop, the one before that 16 hrs, I think I got this one covered.
5. PATIENCE – Seeking appropriate resolution to conflicts, and on the ability to forgive and show mercy.
Your lover never seems to be in the mood for any kind of sexual activity. How patient are you? Do you:
a. Gingerly and sweetly try to talk to them about it and coax them into being in the mood.
b. Force yourself on them by making them feeling guilty about “denying” you so you get pity sex.
c. Do you go off and masturbate to satisfy your urges?
d. Hang your head low and hope tomorrow will be the day he/she is in the mood for nookie.
All of the above also add to list switch on porn, dress up in naughty outfit, masturbate in same room as them...
6. KINDNESS – Manifests as the unprejudiced, compassionate and charitable concern for others.
You are an enlightened sexual being full of sex positivity, confidence, and you love sex! Your motto is to “practice random acts of sexual kindness.” I’m curious what would your most prolific act of sexual kindness be? Why?
This is so hard to answer as I get so much from giving that no matter how selfless the act I gain! Things I like to do with YSL to just please him is give oral, a long slow teasing session that includes me licking his balls and ass. But for him I think he gets more pleasure from pleasing me so I suppose I better lie back and endure :)
7. HUMILITY – modest behavior, selflessness and the giving of respect.
When are you prone to modesty? In what ways do you look out for the interest of others doing things not from selfishness?
I more frequent than not put others before me personally and sexually. I think my gift is to make people feel at ease and cared, I take my delight from their pleasure and happiness. I think I'm also a grateful person, I never assume the right to anything, whether that's material things or respect, affection and if im lucky enough love.
Bonus: Your lover has made you mad but he/she is clueless and is making sexual advances. You:
a. Stay miffed or irritated at your lover and refuse to have sex
b. Rebuke your lover’s advances and tell him/her “not now because I am upset with you”
c. Set the anger aside and have great make up sex
d. Have selfish sex and do only what you want and take what you need with no regard for reciprocal satisfaction
C.make up sex! Only ever had it the once, me and Him were still crying when sexual urges took over and we had such an out pouring of emotion translated in hard fucking.