TMI Tuesday - It's just SEX

It’s Just Sex

1. Do you obsess over having an orgasm during partner sex? Are you disappointed if you do not orgasm?

Heelsnstocking:

Not in the slightest, I orgasm very easily with YSL and always multiple times too, so no disappointments here

YSL:

I just love the intimacy of sex so not in it just for the ‘cum and go’. In my early years I was always conscious not to orgasm too early and trained myself to last longer by slowing down and holding off when I felt myself getting close. It didn’t take too long to be able to be in control and be the ‘master’ of my orgasm so ever since then I’ve been able to simply enjoy the pleasures and orgasm at an appropriate time. There are times though when I just want Yummy so much and have an overwhelming desire to fuck her and cum in her for my own selfish pleasure….which she likes too.

2. Why are you into gay porn?

Heelsnstocking:

Erm, cos it’s got lots of hard cocks in it. Lesbian porn is pretty good too….so is Bi porn. Oh hell all porn is good!!! Did I mention BDSM porn?

YSL:

Sure, I like gay porn, whether it be homo, lesbian or bi. I just like the sensuality and sexuality of desire that is depicted between people who want each other, irrespective of orientation. Studio/professional porn really doesn’t do anything for me as to me it just feels sterile and actors who are just doing a job for the money. I like the amateur stuff where there is a real connection between people.

Exhibit A here

Exhibit B here: OK, not strictly amateur, but I like the raw feel to it.

3. Why aren’t you into gay porn?

Heelsnstocking:

What??? What have you got against cocks??

YSL:

No problem with it here. In fact another place where they don’t have any problem with it is Hotel CitizenM inGlasgow . Yummy and I stayed there a couple of years ago and it is corporate policy to deliver free movies to your room….including gay porn!!! We were so disgusted that we had to have sex whilst watching it.

4. Do you use drugs to have or enhance sex? (Yes, alcohol is a drug).

Heelsnstocking:

I might indulge in sex following drinks, but the drinking is only for unwinding, relaxing and enjoying rather than a deliberate act to enhance sex. In fact, probably the only linkage for me between sex and deliberate drinking is when things are going badly and I decide that getting blasted is the better option to the sex that is on offer. For examples see experiences 6 and 7 to Q1 of this post 

YSL:

No, not at all. I might have sex following drinks, but it’s never a case of ‘prepping up’ so that the sex will be spectacular….as I suspect that nobody has ever managed to be a better performer when drunk.

When at a swinging club, I usually have only soft drinks as I want to be aware of what is going on around me and from this enjoy it and remember it and although I haven’t had any issues so far, I wouldn’t wish for any drinking activities to hamper erections.

5. Do you believe that you are much more sexually open-minded/risky/kinky than most of your previous partners and friends?

Heelsnstocking:

Without a doubt, it takes a lot to keep up with me.

YSL:

Yes, I think so, but hey, the good people who do these sorts of things are also discreet about it, so who knows??

Bonus: Do you believe in ethical non-monogamy, even if it isn’t right for you? Why or Why not?

Heelsnstocking:

I hadn’t even heard of ethical non-monogamy before so had to look it up in case I looked foolish by saying that I was all for saving whales, solar energy and recycling paper as well as shagging everyone, so sure, I’m up for all of that. However after reading this article I now understand what it is about.  Nope, it’s not right for me in my circumstances, but me and YSL seem to follow the general code of ethical non-monogamy between us. So yes, I believe in it.

YSL:

I read this to understand what the ethical bit meant and I like the bit about “Ethical non-monogamy would allow for the self-actualization of individuals while supporting their current relationships, and also supporting their partner’s choice (or need) to not engage in those activities if they are outside of their comfort zone”. It’s not right for me, but I do believe in it, but it’s not something that I would impose on others.